GUEST BLOG By Jennifer Varteressian,
Graduating from The University of Tulsa College of Law, December 2014
So I am not normally someone who is going to preach, or provide a sermon on life problems, but I am a firm believer that there are times in life when we all need a little pep talk. As my mother always said, everything is good in moderation.
Having said that I wanted to share something I experienced this Monday. First I have to give a little back-story for context. When I was a 1L I had a professor that literally scared the crap out of me. He made Professor Charles Kingsfield look like an angel. The first day of class he called on me and screamed “you’re never going to be a lawyer if you don’t speak up! Why are you even in law school if you can’t speak loud enough for me to hear what you’re saying?!” Of course, after hearing this I was MORTIFIED. Going to his class everyday literally made me sick to my stomach. Regardless I continued to go, and thank god for that, because he ended up being one of the best professors I ever had.
One of the things I loved about this particular professor is that he would sometimes look at us and see us for what we really were: sleep deprived, beat down 1L’s. On days like this he would cease with the material we were covering and give testimonials about how to overcome adversity, and maintain your sanity when you are too stressed to go on. I called them his sermons. Throughout law school I made every effort to take as many classes as possible with this professor because I credited the maintenance of my sanity to him during my 1L year.
On more than one occasion I have felt that I have too many things to do to even begin. Sometimes I am immobilized by all my obligations. I am beginning to feel that way now with finals, graduation, and bar prep looming.
I was feeling particularly immobilized this Monday on my way to insurance law.
It was snowing, I was tired, and my responsibilities seemed to be overcoming me. Lucky for me, when I walked into class I evidently wasn’t the only student to appear this way. My professor took the liberty of providing us with another testimonial. The theme: Lie to get through the day.
His message was that getting into law school is not where we pass the buck, we have to continue to push ourselves, and when you feel like you can’t, lie to yourself until you can. He told us that everyone suffers from depression, life is going to rain on you; the important thing is how you handle that rain. When you feel overwhelmed its ok to take pity on yourself, as long as you don’t let that pity run your life, because life will run over you. Although some could have taken this message to be a bit heavy for 9 am, I could not have been more grateful. My professor is right, in the upcoming months we are going to feel overwhelmed, like life is raining on us, like we cannot study any more, but the reality is we can. We have come this far already, and that proves that we are resilient. Sometimes the best way to get through the day is that old saying fake it till you make it. The way I see it, all of our hard work is a mere few months away from coming to fruition. We can manage anything for a few months right!?
On another note next week is Thanksgiving so if you don’t hear from me, it’s because I’m in a food coma! Happy Thanksgiving, and remember, just keep swimming! We’re almost there and were all in this together!
Until Next Time,